Accept but what to accept

Acceptance is good or bad.

What made me think this, people stop making efforts when they accept. It is painful. It is a critical situation that gives frustration and sadness.

Although acceptance is good. But do we know what we need to accept? NO, this part is entirely missing.

I have seen very closely; people accept circumstances. I never did and didn’t believe at all in taking circumstances

In my own life, not once many times, I faced critical situations by accepting facts, not the situation.

 I never accepted the given circumstance. But I always agree with the accepting facts of the current situation. And that helped me in dealing with it.

People quite boldly use the word acceptance, in-depth meaning is lost.

The moment one accepts circumstances, two things happen

1. One tries to fit into it and gradually adjust into that situation
2. Those who adapt to the situations, they kill their fighting DNA. They don’t try to come out of it.

The result of accepting circumstances two personalities can be seen

1. Well accommodating and satisfying figures, which adjust very well with the times
   1. And gradually they start finding happiness in that only. They don’t have any urge to come out of it. Here it is called total acceptance.

I appreciate these people as they have a tremendous capacity to mould themselves.

As everything has its own pros and cons, their most significant drawback is personalities are against growth. That doesn’t mean they don’t want to grow; everybody in this world wants growth and money. But they don’t fight or make an effort for it. Their efforts are limited to the first cycle, which is visible and requires that very moment.

1. People who try to fit and adjust in given circumstances, they align with the condition but mentally they fail to accept and the feeling of rejection always bothers. Mentally they don’t accept and but live in that situation gives them lots of frustration. And I (Anjali) have seen those personalities develop the habit of rejection in everything.

As not able to accept that situation and absence of fighting urge and attitude entirely, their personality develops in a way that they don’t accept things easily.

Then what should be done? What is the other way of acceptance?

As an Emotional Intelligence expert, whenever I (Anjali) met anybody, I start reading the coding of their emotions. How emotions are linked to each other and how they play. And that gave me immense insights into various personalities.

The other way of acceptance which I have seen in all the top entrepreneurs, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, and Big leaders Gandhiji, Nelson Mandela, is accepting facts.

 Importance of Accepting facts, not the Situation

When one accepts facts not the situation, this happens

• One sees the current scenario where the person is
  • They can efficiently analyze the situation and the given effects
    • Once they analyze the scene, they try to come out of it
    • Vision starts moving to break that circle of circumstance by analyzing the current facts, which gives them the clear picture of what next they need to do to break that Chakravyuh.
    • And that acceptance of facts shows that their vision and they look at things in a very different manner.
    • People who accept the facts are the most successful. They look forward to the growth.
    • Acceptance of facts leaves immense of learning for them

In our society, most of the time, we are forced to accept the circumstance and push ourselves to be there. But life is not like that; we have to fight to come out from given …. DNA in our system is like that.  That’s how the moment sperms take birth and start fighting for their existence.

Fighting DNA is in our blood. One needs to revive it at any given time.

There are three steps where one can accept the facts but not the situation even if their personality falls into accommodating personalities.

1. Deal with the immediate effects of that situation
2. The moment it starts settling, analyze the facts of the current scenario. And do concrete planning before moving to the 3^rd step.

Don’t delay on the second step. If you delay here, you will get used to living in that situation. And gradually, that painful circumstance will become your comfort zone.

3. The third step is to pen down what you don’t want or what you want once you pen down the third step, post that all action steps are before you and you need to take a step to achieve it.

This article will undoubtedly help you.

Do follow the steps.

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Anjali.